Monday, August 13, 2012

A Chat in the Living Room

Since I can't do this in person, I'll do it virtually instead.
Please come on into my living room so that I can talk to you.


Have a seat and make yourself comfortable.

Can I interest you in a cup of tea?

Come on in . . .

There's plenty of room for all of us.

There ... now that we're all in, I want to look each one of you in the eye and tell you how much I appreciate your kind words, thoughts and prayers.  These past few weeks have been so emotional for me.  My nephew's funeral and visitation brought together so many people . . . friends, family, business associates.  So many people, so many tears and so many hugs.  Many people got up to share memories of their time spent with Kevin.  None of us did it without choking up.  So much sadness, and yet amongst the sadness there was an overwhelming feeling of love, compassion, support and understanding.  It was a beautiful thing to see the many ways that people came together to be there for my sister and her family in their time of grief.
Which brings me back to our meeting in the living room.
I sometimes struggle with how "real" to get on my blog.
For the most part I aim to keep it light and happy, but hey, let's face it sometimes life is hard.  One thing I know for sure is that when real life has spilled out into the blog I am always blessed by your support.  So, from the bottom of my heart I thank you for being here and being you.  ((Hugs, big hugs to all of you)).

And one more thing. . .
there was one more person at the funeral dinner contributing to the day in his own special way.

A sweet little 3 month old baby boy.
He was passed from person to person all afternoon and never cried once.  It's been years since I've held a baby and I LOVED every minute.  (I think I'm a grandma wannabe:).

Well, it's getting late so I'd better let you go now.
On your way out you may notice the paint job.
It's all done now and it came at a good time as I've been spending a lot of time in there reading this

I'd read about this book on a few blogs in the past and recently found a copy while out thrifting.  It's the kind of book I can read and be carried away to another time and place.  Just what I seem to need right now.  I've also been doing some blog reading, but haven't had the motivation to do much commenting.  I think that will be changing soon.  At least I hope so because I sure do miss y'all. 


  1. Such a great post, Kim - I really felt like I was in your home. I hope your heart is healing.

  2. I am so sorry for the loss of Kevin...a dear member of your beautiful family! My prayers go out to all of you and especially your sister! Thank you for taking the time to write this post for all of us that love to come here to visit you!

  3. So wonderful to have a baby around in a time of grief. My brother died six months before my son was born, and my son was such a healing for my parents (and me.) Take the time you need to mourn and be with family. Writing will always be there. God bless you.

  4. I so enjoyed my visit with you today. I liked having you share your heart and I listened to it as I read each word. I can't imagine the heart break you all are feeling. I totally understand why you have not been commenting, because sometimes one just cannot do it. I felt the joy of the little baby in the midst of it all, and I too, now want to read " The Forgotten Garden". Kim, even though we have never met in real life, it is easy to understand why so many people are hurting with you.

    By the way, your living room paint job is most beautiful!

  5. Hi Kim!
    Your living room is so pretty! I love the sofa!
    Still praying for you as you grieve.

  6. Your living room looks beautiful, Kim! I love the color. You have a beautiful home.

    Your post is beautifully written. Take all the time you need to come back to blogland. Take care and God bless.

  7. What a wonderful post. So sorry again for your loss. What a precious little baby, love holding them at that age. May your healing begin and help you to get thru this time in peace! Blessings to you and your family!

  8. Kim, I am so sorry for your loss. What a tragedy. I hope you all will find strength in each other and learn to laugh again.

  9. Babies seem to help us cope with loss. Glad he was there to help cheer everyone up during this sad time. The new color on your living room walls turned out perfectly! And the big window just floods the room with light. Your whole living room is so pretty! (We love the same colors) I loved The Forgotten Garden! I really liked the way the fairy tale intertwined itself around the story being told.

  10. I really feel as if I've met you and if I really was at your home this afternoon I would give you a big hug. So sorry you are hurting.
    Your home is beautiful!!
    You look right at home holding the little one. : )
    And what a lovely picture of you.
    I'm going to the library this evening and will see if they have the book.

  11. Oh that child is so handsome and you're a natural...just sayin'...

    Yes, I did notice the lovely room all painted and looking fine. I'm glad that you have everything back in good order so that you have that place to rest, to think, to pray, to read.

    I'm liking the sound of that book. I remember just after my mother died that I watched every show I could find of Lark Rise to Candleford. It took me away, which I very much needed for a while.

    Ready for you to return when you are ready to return. There is no need to rush, time becomes more fluid in a grieving season. I keep your sister in my prayers...

  12. You've been in my thoughts. This was a very nice post Kim. I'm hoping time will help you and your family - such a sad time and the empty feeling with Kevin gone must be hard to comprehend.

    Your room turned out perfectly - I think this was a great choice and you will enjoy it more than the green which you may have tired off after a while.

    Take care dear,
    Hugs - Mary

  13. Dear Kim, I am so sorry to hear of your nephew's passing. So hard to comprehend when it happens so suddenly. Keeping you and your family in thoughts and prayers and sending blessings of peace and comfort. Tammy

  14. What a beautiful post Kim. I was right there with you and enjoyed my visit! :-)

    There is something very soothing about holding a baby I agree.

    Hugs and prayers


  15. ((((( Kim )))))

    I am sorry to hear about your loss. What a shock it must have been but it is so obvious that Kevin was well loved and that is what living is all about. I also had to think of my own family and my mother always says the best thing at a funeral is saying goodbye to loved ones while saying hello to sweet new little lives. The baby is adorable!

    Your walls turned out so beautiful. I am sure you must be so pleased.

    I know how you feel about finding books can take you away to another place. I have been reading a great deal as I learn to deal with some hurts a friend has inflicted. I have found myself opening a book each time I feel too sad and it really helps!

    Hugs from Holland ~

  16. Kim that was really a wonderful post. I love how warm and inviting you are. Such a sweet and kind soul...and that picture with the wee little look right at home!

    Thanks for sharing the novel...I've seen it everywhere and almost purchased it several times. When I finally do get my hands on it, I think it will remind me of your cozy living room....and YOU!

    ciao bella
    Creative Carmelina

  17. Oh Kim..... you are such a sweet and kindred spirit to me.......I always feel a connection with your thoughts and pictures...

    My heart hurts for your family in the loss of a young man who had so much promise. God is good..... Your nephew is at peace and..... in time.... you and your family will be at peace.

    I love the picture of the beautiful baby..... so much hope!
    Your home is so open / beautiful and inviting..

  18. Dear Kim,

    Our deepest sympathy for the loss of your family member. It's so difficult to lose someone we love. We pray for God's comfort and peace to be with you and upon you.

    Isn't is amazing the healing power God gives to babies when we need to be lifted up?

    Hugs, Edie & Marie

    Thank you for the tea sweetie!

  19. What a sweet child!

    Thanks for inviting us in...even in your time of grief. I know whereof you speak...that there are things most difficult to share on a blog. I am going through that right now...something that hurts to the core but can't be shared.


  20. So sorry for your loss. It is so wonderful to have family and friends to help you through it all. And of course a baby makes everything better. We are going through a situation with our youngest grand (posted on my blog) so I totally understand how much family means. Your living room is so welcoming and wish we could sit down with a cup of coffee! Bless you and your family!

  21. Kim, what a beautiful Home you have so sorry for your families loss, it is good sometimes to share the bumps in life on our Blogs it does keep us grounded. I am your newest follower~ Hugs, Diane

  22. Popping in from Vee's blog and it seems I've come at a sad time.

    I am so sorry to read about your nephew. So young, so sad. My heart goes out to your family.

    Your living room is lovely! It's like.. my dream living room. :) That baby is pretty dang cute too! You look good with him. I think that you should be a Grandma too. I'm betting you'd be fantastic.


  23. Your home looks so lovely, Kim, and that baby is a little doll. It was good to read that your family was comforted by the outpouring of love from family and friends at nephew's funeral. I know you will be helping your sister grieve and ultimately make peace, Kim. One day she will be reunited with Kevin in heaven.

  24. Kim,
    I always enjoy looking at other bloggy friend's home furnishings. I seldom post things about my house because I like to keep things simple and fun, like you, but I did appreciate browsing through your living's very warm and cozy. Sending you love today.
    ~Sheri at Red Rose Alley

  25. Hi Kim,
    I'm so sorry your family had this tragedy. My heart goes out to you all. Praying for healing and peace for all of you.
    Your house is beautiful and I enjoyed tour.
    You and the baby are adorable! You look great!
    I had surgery in April and it was a long recovery and it's good to be back to blogging.

  26. Beautifully shared. It is good to be honest. Life is not always perfect, but it is so good to know that we are loved by One who sees what we do not. May God's comfort be near.

  27. Oh Kim, I am so sorry for your terrible loss. It is always so hard to understand when a young person is taken from us. You are in my thoughts and prayers. XO, Pinky

  28. I read this post again, and I want to tell you that in the midst of all its sadness, that you will be a pretty grandma when it happens. I like the picture of you holding the little one.

  29. Kim, you are right, life is real and thank you for sharing your heart with us. Having friends, family and associates around is reassuring and comforting during these moments of life that are so heavy on our heart. I understand and I am always here should you ever want to talk. But I'd love to chat in your beautiful living room, too. What a view from your window!

    much love,

  30. PS: you are beautiful! And that little baby looks like he could be related to you.



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