Tuesday, August 7, 2012


In the process of choosing a title for today's post I considered something clever, something catchy, something touching ... but in the end I'm just calling it what is is ... grieving.  Sugar coating grief serves no useful purpose, in my opinion.  So, today as much as I would like it to be otherwise, my happy home is a bit sad.  

A much loved member of our family is no longer with us.
His sudden death at age 26 has left us in a state of shock and sadness.

~ Kevin & Michael ~

Born one month after my oldest son, they were cousins as well as little buddies.  When I think of him I remember his happy, smiling face and cute little blond hair.

~ Chris, Michael, Kevin & Jeremy ~

Four cousins that shared so many happy times together.
My sister and I each had two sons.
They are close in age, love sports and spent a lot of time together playing and getting into the mischief that little boys are known for.

When the college years hit, they didn't see each other as often.
But, when they did get together they'd pick up where they left off ... shooting hoops on the driveway.

My heart is so heavy for my dear sister and her family.
They have faced so much loss in the past few years.
I wonder how much more they can take.
Before the funeral I held my sister as she sobbed and said "why, why, why?"  To see her going through this kind of grief without being able to put her feelings into words is heartbreaking.

~Kevin & his grandparents ~

As the kids were growing up we always got together to ring in the new year.  It was tradition and made for many happy memories.
I smiled when I came across this picture of my parents and Kevin ringing in the new millenium.  I find comfort in knowing that they are once again surrounding Kev with their love.

May you rest peacefully dear Kevin.
You were a wonderful nephew and cousin who will be missed so much.  Our love is with you ... always.


  1. How very sad...
    I am so sorry for your sister and your entire family. Know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  2. I am so sorry for your family...and your dear sister.

  3. Words fail me, Kim. I'm so terribly sad for your family and for your sister who has already been through so much. Praying for the peace that passes understanding to settle on your spirits and for great comfort in this time of grief.

  4. I'm so sorry, Kim. Praying for you and your sister.

  5. So sorry for your family's loss, Kim. We just had the same happen in our's. My sister's beautiful 31 yo daughter passed away last month. It is such a hard thing to see your sister have to endure the pain knowing that absolutely nothing you can say or do will ever again make it "all better"..God Bless!


  6. I am so sorry Kim, Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.


  7. Kim, I am so very sorry. I'll be thinking of you.

  8. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. There are really no words. May you and your family find some sort of comfort these next few days and months. Again, so sorry and my thoughts are with you!

  9. The memories of happier times, such as in your lovely photos, will help you all later when the grief is not so fresh. Losing anyone in the family is so hard but a young member is especially heartbreaking. My prayers go out to Kevin's parents and sibling, and to all your families....................

    Fondly, Mary

  10. Dear Kim...I am so very sorry! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!

  11. Oh Kim, I feel so sad. I am so sorry for this tragic loss. Praying for all of you. xo

  12. My deepest sympathy on losing your nephew...

  13. I'm so very sorry, Kim, for your loss. You and your sister and all your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  14. Kim,
    I'm so sorry to hear about your beloved nephew. He has such a sweet face. May God be with you and your family.
    ~Sheri at Red Rose Alley

  15. Kim, I'm so sorry to hear of your family's loss. I will be thinking of your sister and praying for you all. Twyla

  16. So sorry Kim! Your family has gone through so much. I'm still praying for you all.

  17. My heart goes out to your family! So very sad.

    Hugs & prayers, Judy

  18. Looking at your priceless photos of your beautiful family makes my heart break for you even more. And yes, Kevin had that cute bowl cut!! Such memories, Kim, such sweet, sweet memories. Hold onto them, cherish them, take copious notes so not to forget them and know that someday God, our Father, will have us all home again. His promise. ...may the Lord bring you peace....
    my heartfelt love and understanding,


  19. I missed you and wondered if everything was okay with you. My heart just broke when I read the word "grieving" on your blog title. I am so sorry! There just are not words to give you, except that I am hurting so much for you, your family and your dear sister and her family. The pictures are so precious! I promise to hold you all in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time.

  20. I'm so sorry for your loss! You will be in my thoughts and prayers!

  21. I'm so sorry to read this. To lose one so young is particularly heart-breaking. Please tell your sister you have readers who are thinking of her family and sending prayers.

  22. So sorry. Know I will hold your family in my prayers.

  23. Oh Kim.....I'm so sorry!!! My prayers are with you and your family. It's never easy losing someone we love, but especially hard when they're so young.

    The pictures of the boys are priceless.

  24. Oh how heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss and for all of your family. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers. It is so hard to believe when a young person is taken away. God bless. XO, Piny

  25. My Heart goes out to Your Family. It is always terrible when someone dies, but when they are so young it is even worse.

  26. Oh Kim, I am so sorry. He was so young. This is heartbreaking. You and your sister's family are in my prayers.

  27. So young...that is sad. I lost my cousin at too young an age as well..he was 21. I miss him.

    Thinking of you and your family at this time.
    I know you'll be there to comfort your sister in the days ahead.


  28. Oh my Kim, I am so sorry to hear the sad news on the untimely passing of your nephew Kevin! Your heart must be breaking. My htoughts and prayers go out to you and your family in this time of sorrow. {{hugs}}


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